At the birth

I’ve already been through all this madness once before. I know exactly how it feels to swing between excitement, nervousness, and complete cluelessness as an expectant father. That’s why I’m sharing my experiences here, so you’ll be well prepared when the time comes.

Honestly, you can’t prepare 100% for what’s coming. But you can get smart about it! Attend a childbirth preparation course together, watch videos, and talk about what you both want for the birth. Believe me, you don’t want to be the guy standing clueless in the delivery room.

Yes, you should also have a small bag with you. Comfortable clothes, snacks (you will get hungry!), drinks, a phone charger, and maybe a camera for the first baby photos. Your partner will appreciate it if you don’t have to run off to get something at the last minute.

Labor will be tough – for her, but also for you. Your main task? Stay calm and be there. Hold her hand (but not too tight, she might squeeze back!), remind her to breathe, and just be supportive. If she screams, complains, or even curses you – don’t take it personally. That’s part of it! And if she bites, don’t bite back!

Sometimes your partner will be so focused on the contractions that she can’t clearly express what she needs. Be her voice, but without acting like the head doctor. Make sure her wishes are respected and ask questions if there’s something you don’t understand.

Yes, it will be intense. Maybe bloody. Maybe overwhelming. But you don’t have to do everything perfectly – you just have to be there. Be patient, encourage her, and hang in there. And if you start feeling faint: sit down, but don’t pass out.

This moment is magical. YOUR baby is coming into the world, you see it for the first time, and maybe you’ll even get to hold it in your arms. Enjoy it! And if you can, do skin-to-skin contact – it strengthens your bond. Even if you get peed on, take it with humor!

Your partner has just accomplished something incredible. Now it’s your turn to support her. Organize things, bring her food, take care of paperwork – and most importantly: just be there for her.