Father-child relationship

Ich habe diesen Weg selbst durchlaufen und kann dir sagen: Die Geburt ist vorbei, das Baby ist da – und jetzt? Jetzt beginnt das eigentliche Abenteuer: die Vater-Kind-Beziehung. Vielleicht fragst du dich, wie du von Anfang an eine enge Bindung zu deinem Kind aufbauen kannst. Keine Sorge, du musst nicht alles perfekt machen – aber du solltest da sein. Hier sind meine Erfahrungen und Tipps für eine starke Beziehung zu deinem Kind.

Many fathers think that the first months are only important for the mother. Wrong! Your baby recognizes your voice, feels your closeness, and gets used to you. So: Hold your child in your arms, talk to them, just be there. The more time you spend with your baby, the stronger your bond will become.

Physical contact is not only important for mothers!! Hold your baby on your bare chest (skin-to-skin contact), it calms them and strengthens your bond. I did this often and I can tell you: it works! Your baby feels safe and secure – and as a father, you immediately become part of this close connection.

Diapering, bathing, feeding the bottle – those are not just mom’s tasks. I learned early on: the more you actively take care of your child, the more natural your relationship will become. And believe me, your partner will thank you when you step in and help.

Whether it’s bedtime routines, cuddling together, or a special way to soothe your baby – find out what works for you. For example, I had a certain song that I always hummed – after a while, my child immediately reacted to it. Your child will love these special moments with you and come to rely on them.

Sometimes you won’t know why your baby is crying or can’t be soothed. That’s normal. What matters is that you stay calm. Babies can sense stress and insecurity. So take a deep breath and just keep going – over time you’ll become more confident.

It’s not about being the “perfect” father. It’s about spending time with your child. Whether you’re lying on the floor with your baby, singing to them, or just going for a walk – all of it strengthens your bond. And believe me, your child won’t remember if you did everything right, but they will remember that you were there.

Sleepless nights, teething, temper tantrums – all of that is part of it. Your child doesn’t only need you in the good moments, but also when things get tough. I learned: hang in there, even when it gets frustrating. These phases will pass, but your bond will remain.