Postpartum period for fathers

I went through this journey myself and I can tell you: the birth is over, the baby is here – and now? Now begins a completely new time – the postpartum period. While your partner recovers from the birth and you settle in as a family, a very special role awaits you as a father. Here are my experiences and tips on how you can make the most of this time.

The first weeks after birth are a rollercoaster. Your partner is exhausted, the baby needs attention around the clock, and you probably won’t get much sleep either. Your job? Stay calm. Be the one who organizes, tidies up, does the shopping, and simply makes sure everything runs at home. That takes a huge load off your partner.

Your partner has just accomplished an incredible physical feat and now needs rest. Take on as many tasks as possible – changing diapers, soothing the baby, doing laundry, preparing meals. And most importantly: remind her to rest and take care of herself.

The postpartum period is not just for mom and baby. You can (and should!) also use this special time to build a close bond with your child. Skin-to-skin contact, cuddling, gentle talking – all of this strengthens your connection from the very beginning.

Family and friends want to see the baby? Understandable. But don’t overdo it. Your partner and your baby need rest. Be the one who coordinates visits, sometimes cancels them, and makes sure no one stays too long.

Yes, you will be tired. Very tired. But it will pass. Use every opportunity to catch up on sleep – even during the day. And if you can’t do the night feedings, at least take over the diaper changes or soothing, so your partner can get a break too.

Hormonal changes, exhaustion, insecurities – all of this can cause mood swings for your partner. Be understanding, listen, and just be there. Sometimes it already helps if you simply tell her: “You’re doing great.”

Many women experience what is called the baby blues in the first days after birth – a phase in which they are especially emotional and tearful. That’s normal. But if your partner seems sad or overwhelmed for a longer period, talk to her about it and, if necessary, seek support.

As exhausting as the postpartum period can be – it’s a very special phase. The first days and weeks with your baby will never come again. So enjoy the cuddles, the first looks, the little sounds, and simply the magic of this new chapter of life.